Why do happily married men go to prostitutes

Whether your idea of a good time is gently spooning while she strokes your hair, or getting spanked while she calls you a dirty little man-bitch, you have to tell her up front. The same goes for the escorts. No physical pain. They might be on to something, says Dr. But there is some value in talking about the things you want—sexually and otherwise—with a little more openness and bluntness. Take the emotion out of it, says Dr.

Married men rarely visit prostitutes at night, and absolutely never on the weekend. Remember when sex with your wife used to be like that? Well, okay, for some of them maybe. A date night comes with zero risk.

The worst that could happen is maybe the babysitter cancels, or you forgot to make reservations at that one restaurant you both wanted to try. How do you recreate that sleeping-with-a-prostitute excitement, but without the exchanging-currency-for-sexual-favors part?

People go brain dead in a marriage. You have to be willing to try things that make you uncomfortable. Do your date nights usually happen on a weekend? Cancel it. Instead, have her meet you downtown during your lunch break for a quickie. Rent one of those by-the-hour hotels and see what happens.

Or if you have to do a weekend, wait till your in-laws are on their way over, and then see if you can master the complicated positions necessary to have car sex in your unlocked garage before they arrive.

Are you seriously doing this? This is backed up by what another men have been brave enough to admit. In many marriages, the women has total control of the couples sex life. They dictate when, where and how it happens.

Control can be equally as appealing as sex. For some married men, they feel emasculated when their control is completely removed from the equation. Sometimes, when they pay for sex, they are actually paying for the power and control of when, where and how it takes place.

Wives, on the other hand, can place conditions around sex. Yes, sort of. If I had to get married, I would still have picked the same woman to marry. People reading this will judge me. Mine is sex and a lot of the others seem even more destructive. Oh, I got on the wagon through sheer damn willpower. Great post Mike. It might interest you. Thanks for noticing my website.

Be well, Linda Linda montecitonet. Have you ever stopped to think about how much this would hurt her. My world came crashing down a month ago when I found out that my husband was living the same lie you are. I can tell you this… we have sex almost everyday and I have opened myself up to anything could ever want or need in the bedroom. We were what I thought was a happy couple. We rarely disagree about anything. I never imagined he would ever do anything like this. I will tell you like I told him.

No woman is having sex for money because she wants to. Most of these women have things that have lead them to this lifestyle. That would be an irrational act. Now I have to stay on the wagon. He probably does, deeply. Men compartmentalize more. Sex and love can exist in different compartments. Different compartments, plus something screwed up in my wiring.

There are men who do that lots, and plenty of women too but they never go to a prostitute. Which one is worse? Debatable to the end of time. Why do some of us have these appetites? I did something good. Most people have once they rack up enough years. People are complex and good and bad is mixed in all, just to different degrees.

The psychiatrists are right. I am a 40 year old woman, happily married for 8 years and together for 15 sorry for my english, not native language who has just discovered her husband goes regularly to escorts. I have asked him to explain it to me, so i can understand, and i believe him when he says he loves me deeply and this behavior has nothing to do with me or with our couple.

I though it was a one time thing, but he has explained he has been doing this for as long as 20 years before we knew each other regularly. My husband is a great person, will do anything for me, or anyone else, has a very stressful job, had a difficult childhood.

And am i asking for too much? I would prefer to say we have an amazing sex life, but as the stress in his job went up, our sexual life went down, on his side, his sexual drive with me disapeared.

I try and try but he always says no. To a point where i have started to feel like his sister more than his wife. I also have made him understand that i have needs too, and no intention to start something on the side.

Is it possible, when you have been having this behavior regularly for the last two decades to stop? Is it possible for him to be attracted to me again? And you have to mean what you say. In my professional experience, the spouse has the power. Linda Hatch.

Women dont need to open their eyes to anything. Men need to learn to keep their junk in their pants and their filthy eyes off woman on the internet. As Mike said above, people are complex and you cannot fault someone for being who they are. Im an escort. Dont mind that guy. He already admitted to being a sociopath. They profess to be good, to love. Who knows maybe they believe their own lies. But deep down they are selfish sex addicted sociopaths of different degrees. I came from an abusive family, have ptsd.

I began escorting as a way to avoid sitting at home on disability. Nowadays i do it for the fun easy money. Im proud of my above average looks and my ability to manipulate these assholes. In the end money is the only thing theyre good for. Use them. Make them believe whatever you want. Make them go crazy over you and suck their bank accounts dry. They deserve it. Men see women as sex portals.

They manipulate and play victim. Maleness is a disease. God bless you. My husband uses women like you. You deserve every penny. I am sorry. You deserve better for yourself but I understand your position. These sociopaths are the worst to deal with. Putadelujo thank you for weighing in. I am just figuring this out on the wife side. Its been my personal nightmare forever because of what it implies of the treatment of women.

I am tortured by the idea that women are forced into to prostitution. I think he is a sociopath. Do you agree? They are led to believe, through the onboard of porn, that its perfectly acceptable that they have secret sex, and it makes them a man. Me too! I am also an escort and i was forced into it very young.

I dont feel there is much else I can offer the world. Just the way the world works. Id rather be the escort than the wife any day. Why buy the pig when all you gets a little sausage! I feel you man. I was married 10 years before I saw an eacort. It was stress.

You struck the nail on the head, or strummed the right chord, or whatever. I could leave my wife and ruin my kids life and I myself might be a bit happier. But I choose my wife and children to have a better life, while mine may be a bit less happier. Or I am just rationalizing it my own way. Everyday, many ,many times we make decisions. From what to wear to what to eat.

We sometimes barely even give a thought to what we are doing as a lot of what we do is a repeat of the previous day. And if I decide I want to to eat 10 donuts for breakfast that is my choice—it affects no one but me. The minute I make a decision that is going to affect someone else I stop. You know use my brain. If you want to continue with your decision and take action on your thoughts then you must end the relationship with the person you are going to betray.

You are a person who has no problem being intentionally mean to others. So, this reply is for Mike or for everyone. I appreciate the statement of your saying that you might be a high functioning sociopath. He will make it a priority. That's an absolute fact. I have chairman clients on very powerful boards that make the time for me.

Not one single man is too busy for a woman. Secondly, it doesn't matter how good the marriage is, how happy you are, or think you are , what a great father he is, what a great provider and you still have sex every Tuesday and a regular date night, men still stray.

I'm not saying all men of course, but I am saying enough to keep the adult industry recession proof. I've deduced the married ones fall into three categories: those who have zero intimacy with their wives some tragically for decades and say they feel like a walking credit card. They won't leave because they don't want to lose more than half their money and don't want to hurt the kids. Then they are those who say they love their wives, but admit they just need variety.

And then we have the most complex lot: the very happily married man, as Dean Jones appeared to be. It's not my job to judge. If there's anything I've learnt in my role as Samantha is that it is not a perfect world, we are not perfect people and everyone is just doing the best they can.